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Her experiences in those two years in Mumbai before the couple moved to Los Angeles forever clouded the way Aarya thought of the city in which she had grown up. Probably every woman in India has one story about having been subject to lecherous looks as she has walked down the street.
At play here is the stereotype that men from the West are interested in women mainly for sexual gratification. Where are your bangles? To many Indians, the idea of a mixed-race couple is alien, repulsive even.
Then the other woman, who had remained silent until then, asked me for proof. Now make her walk next to a white man.
At first, he laughed. In a country where jingoism is at its peak and love is being politically exploited, such comments are no surprise.
Published April 2, This article is more than 2 years old. She asked him to watch where he was going.
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She then asked me questions about our wedding and everything that had led to it. By extension, the Indian women they are with must be promiscuous.
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Then seeing that I was not going to go, he apologised. But when curious glances turned to quizzical looks, we began to realise that we were considered an oddity: A brown woman with a white man.
This post first appeared on Scroll. I showed them the fading mehendi on my palms.
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Yet, there I was, feet dipped in clear water, staring into the horizon, trying to convince two middle-aged women whom I did not know that the man I was with was indeed my husband. Then there is patriarchy: Women who venture out of the nest to seek a mate must lack decency.
By the fourth day of our vacation on the islands, we had got used to being stared at. Mixed-race couples often have to deal with scepticism about their relationship masquerading as concern about cultural differences.
A brown woman with a white man brings out the worst in indians
The doves that remained at home never exposed to loss innocent and secure cannot know tenderness. I wondered whether she would have felt as much concern over my being so far away from my mother had I married an Indian. When Aarya decided to tie the knot with Nicholas inshe often got lectured about the sanctity of marriage and how it should be preserved. Chris, her American boyfriend, had accompanied her.
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An Indian woman who has got a white man must be enlightened, even by complete strangers. We welcome your comments at ideas. When many Indians see one of their women with a man of a different race, they make assumptions, and offer unsolicited advice. And a mixed-race couple in which one person is black often brings out the worst kind of racism.