It's easy to dismiss such bile but Greenlander's analysis is echoed by many Australian singles, both male and female. The girls only wanted to go for the cool guys, good looks, outgoing personalities, money, sporty types, the kind of guys who owned the room, while us quiet ones got ignored.
And he's an utter sweetheart. But ultimatums are a risky thing, because there is always a possibility the other side will decide to leave it. Most are over During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Dalrock dalrock. They had the choice of men, sex was on tap and guys like me went home alone, red-faced, defeated and embarrassed.
They want the alpha males.
The crisis for single women in this age group seeking a mate is very real. There is Greenlander, an apparently successful engineer in his late 30s. They stopped smiling at me, shifted awkwardly in their seats and looked me up and down as if they were trying to figure out how a girl who still wears jeans and ballet flats could land a guy like that.
The endgame Dalrock warns about is already in play for hordes of unmarried professional women - the well-coiffed lawyers, bankers and other success stories. Much of it thrives on the internet, in the so-called ''manosphere''. Her new companions were very friendly and chatted to her during the break. But then he spent time overseas, gained more confidence, learnt how to dress well and hit his early 30s. This is, of course, their right.
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Naomi explains: ''He's 36 years old and is definitely someone who falls into the alpha-male category: excellent job in finance, PhD, high income, six feet two, sporty and very handsome. These internet sites are not for the faint-hearted. The 30s are worrying years for high-achieving women who long for marriage and children - of course, not all do - as they face their rapidly closing reproductive window surrounded by men who see no rush to settle down.
American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ''intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind''. But was their decade of dating a strategic mistake?
Women telling men to ''man up'' and stop shying away from commitment. Almost one in three women aged 30 to 34 and a quarter of lates women do not have a partner, according to the census statistics. In the past year, the proportion of degree-educated women aged 25 to 34 rose from The high expectations of professional women are a big part of the story.
I wasn't going to lie, so I told them he was my partner and how long we'd been together. She's is now 39 and facing grim choices. Yet given the plight of thirtysomething women seeking partners, it's hardly surprising that her boyfriend is in their sights. It was amazing how they responded. That leaves a lot of beta men spending their 20s out in the cold.
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Analysis of census figures by the Monash University sociologist, Genevieve Heard, reveals that almost one in four of degree-educated women in their 30s will miss out on a man of similar age and educational achievement. The floodgates burst open for me. Now he's interested only in women under It's just too easy. Jamie, a year-old Sydney barrister, thinks so: ''Women labour under the impression they can have it all.
Parfitt adds: ''They've swallowed the L'Oreal line: 'Because you're worth it! Data from American colleges show 20 per cent of males - the most attractive ones - get 80 per cent of the sex, according to an analysis by Susan Walsh, a former management consultant who wrote about the issue on her dating website, hookingupsmart. So, many women are missing out on their fairytale ending - their assumption that when the time was right the dream man would be waiting.
And this is a growing problem. Playing the dating game Credit: istock photos. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. She acknowledged ''there was no good reason to end things'', yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. They can have the career, this carefree lifestyle and then, at the snap of their fingers, because they are so fabulous, find a man. Many high-achieving women simply are not interested in Mr Average, says Justin Parfitt, the owner of Australia's fastest growing speed-dating organisation, Fast Impressions.
The voices are often crude and misogynist. She is stunned by how hard it is to meet suitable men willing to commit. It is a great time as a male in your 30s, when you start getting more female attention and sex than you could ever have dreamt of in your 20s. But if they wait until their 30s they're competing with women who are much younger and in various ways more attractive. The of partnerless women in their 30s has almost doubled since The challenge is greatest for high-achieving women in their 30s looking for equally successful men.
There was silence and then one of them asked me if I knew him. In the next decade we will witness the end result of this game of marriage chicken. Naomi is stunned by the of women in their 30s who throw themselves at her partner: the colleagues who s with kisses; the female journalist who pointedly asked, post-interview, if he was married.
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I actually dated five women at once, amazing my flatmates by often bedding three to four of my casual dates each week. Penny acknowledges part of the problem is her own expectations - that her generation of women was brought up wanting too much. But there is another conversation going on - a fascinating exchange about what is happening from the male point of view.
She is shocked to find many mids men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age. Many thought they could put off marriage and families until their 30s, having devoted their 20s to education, establishing careers and playing the field. But these men go fast, many fishing outside their pond.
She was ed by three unfamiliar women - all attractive, well groomed, in their mids. They have cause for celebration, you see. Sixty per cent of his members are female.
He finds many of his female members are determined to meet only men who are tall, attractive, wealthy and well educated. He barely had a date through much of his 20s and gave up on women. Women astonished that men don't seem to be around when they decide it is time to settle down. But they tell it as they see it. There were only 68, unattached graduate men in their 30s for 88, single graduate women in the same age group.
In his early adult life, he was unable to ''get the time of day from women''. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace. Naomi sat in the back row of Melbourne's Grattan Institute, about to watch her fiance give a lecture. The most attractive, successful men can take their pick from women their own age or from the Naomis, the younger women who are happy to settle early. Greg, a year-old writer from Melbourne, started adult life shy and lonely.
And the higher-education gap keeps widening.
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Talking to many women like her, it's intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren't ready. She has been in a relationship with her fiance for six years. That was 11 years ago. That's when some men start behaving very badly - as the manosphere clearly shows.
Here you will find men cheerfully, even triumphantly, blogging about their experience. From their whispered chat, she quickly realised they weren't there to hear about politics and economics but to meet her eligible man. Almost one in three degree-educated year-old men marries or lives with women aged 30 or under, according to income, housing and marriage surveys by the Bureau of Statistics.
But then her partner, who had been socialising at the front of the room, made eye contact with Naomi and smiled. Naomi is an attractive year-old PhD student. They've discovered a profound change has taken place in the mating game and, to their surprise, they are the winners. They could make or break you with one look in a club or bar.